Love and Let Go

"Sometimes when you love something you really do have to let it go. If it's meant to be, it will. It doesn't mean you give up or lose hope. It simply means you give it the room it needs to happen at the right time."

The above quote is one of my most recent Facebook statuses. I thought I would elaborate on it.

This quote was written with respect to love.

Relationships are not perfect, I think everyone can agree on that. I believe that there are certain situations in which time and space need to be taken into consideration. As women we can get so caught up in the love story and just the idea of being in a relationship. It can take us on an emotional roller coaster. We want it all and we want it now. When you get to a certain point in your life when you are ready to settle down you just don't want to wait anymore. After all, many of us just spend so much of our lives desiring to be in love and to find "the one". But it doesn't always work out that way.

Men are much different in their thought process. Often times it isn't until much later in life that men decide they want to settle down and even when they do make that decision, it isn't one they want to rush. This can create a bit of a problem when you get two people together with completely different views on what the pace of the relationship should be. The crazy part is that both parties often have the same goal, it's the speed to reach it that differs.  

When you get into a relationship where a man wants a slower pace the best thing for the woman to do is back off. Like the quote says, this isn't meant to say you give up and move on. It means you give him space, after all he needs to be the one doing the pursuing. Let him lead the chase and follow his pace. Let him know that you're still there but you aren't going to be the one pushing the relationship to that next level. Men really do enjoy being the leaders, so let them do it. Enjoy it! When we get so caught up in where the relationship is and how to define it we lose sight of what really matters. Just enjoy life and the fact that there's a man in your life that does care enough not to jump too far ahead too fast. There is a difference between taking your time in a relationship and commitment issues...and that is another blog in itself.

In conclusion, don't over analyze and don't overthink it ladies. If it is meant to be it will happen, allow space for the relationship to grow on it's own without the pressure. Keep loving yourself and keep believing in love. Don't give up, just give it some room. And if in the end the man doesn't lead the chase, then you know it wasn't meant to be. If a man really loves you he will pursue you, but you have to let him in order to truly know.

Abigail